Introspection seems to be a daily occurrence for me at this age
Maybe mid-life is kicking in, or I am inching closer to death. I tend to pick up lessons on the things I read or experienced that I went through.
And for many of them, I would have hoped they would come to me sooner. It may have saved me a load of pain during my earlier years.
There are far too many lessons that I picked up since adulting. I distilled them down to the 43 that resonate with me most.
I categorized them, and you can see some imbalance. Happiness is something I am still trying to find for myself.
Regardless, I hope you find them helpful as I did.
- Good boss and lousy work > Good work and lousy boss
- The ability to write, storytell and/or public speak is a superpower
- Always calendar block
- If you use a scheduling app, block out the immediate week. If the matter is important enough, people will wait.
- Inbox zero is a myth
- The more emails you send, the more you get back
- Don’t cry over your job because it will not cry over you.
- The amateur waits for inspiration; the professional shows up
- Never let company values compromise your core values
- A hundred ingredients make an awful dish. A hundred activities make a poor KPI
- ProductHunt newsletter is the best place to find the next best productivity app.
- Micromanagement does not scale. Culture does
- There are two great addictions – drugs and a monthly salary
- If your people are not sharing bad news, it isn’t because there are none. It is because they are withholding.
- Done is better than None
- Retirement is not 65 years old in a nursing home getting a cheque. Retirement is you stop sacrificing today for the imaginary tomorrow.
- Your mind constantly thinks you are physically fitter than you are
- Sometimes all you need is just a few deep breaths
- Even a 1-min daily workout is better than no workout at all.
- You are what you eat
- You gain mass at the gym & lose weight in the kitchen
- Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you
- Kids need a good life but not an easy life
- There is only one objective as parents – to prepare kids to become independent adults
- You don’t expect a larva to fly, so don’t expect kids to behave like adults
- If you don’t teach them to be autonomous at 7, they will live with you at 37.
- Too often, in all our efforts to be good teachers, all we transmit is our anxiety, uncertainty and fear of failure
- When travelling, ask yourself, “do you want to take photos, or do you want to make memories”
- Stop comparing your day-to-day with someone else’s social media highlights
- People don’t remember what you tell them but how you make them feel
- When we talk about how good we are, it is bragging. When others do, it is evidence
- The wrong decisions you make should not define who you are as a person
- Study the philosopher, not the philosophy
- To find the correct answers, you need to start with the right questions
- The road to nowhere is paved with excuses
- Everyone has two lives – the second starts when you realise you only have one.
- Every master is formerly a disaster
- If you watch successful people talk about their methods, remember that all the people who used the same methods and failed did not make videos about it
- There is no worse jail term than a financial one
- The priciest material purchase will only give you the euphoria that lasts less than 15 mins.
- Spend on experience, not things
- When laypeople know about the next thing to invest in, it is already too late, and we are just the suckers for those who are better informed to enter early.
- You have less self-control than you think on credit card usage
- The antidote to many life’s unhappiness is just a long walk away
- If you can talk, you can write. Don’t believe me? Just transcribe your audio recording,
- The first draft is always bad
- Never edit while you write. Turning off Grammarly and spellchecks will eliminate the red underlined OCD triggers.
- Distance the first drafts within a few days before editing them.